MAGNOLIAS
I spent the week before my daughter's June wedding running last-minute trips to the caterer, florist, tuxedo shop, and the church about forty miles
away. As happy as I was that Patsy was marrying a good Christian young man, I felt laden with responsibilities as I watched my budget dwindle .. . .so many details, so many bills, and so little time. My son Jack was away at college, but he said he would be there to walk his younger sister down the aisle, taking the place of his dad who had died a few years before. He teased Patsy, saying he'd wanted to give her away since she was about three years old! To save money, I gathered blossoms from several friends who had large magnolia trees. Their luscious, creamy-white blooms and slick green leaves would make beautiful arrangements against the rich dark wood inside the church.I scurried out praying for four things: the blessing of white magnolias, courage to find them in an unfamiliar yard, safety from any dog that may bite my leg, and a nice person who would not get out a shotgun when I asked to cut his tree to shreds.
As I left the church, I saw magnolia trees in the distance. I approached a house . . . no dog in sight. I knocked on the door and an older man answered. So far so good . . . no shotgun.
When I stated
my plea the man beamed, "I'd be happy to!"
He climbed a stepladder and cut large boughs and handed them down to me.
Minutes later, as I lifted the last armload into my car trunk, I said,
"Sir, you've made the mother of
a bride happy today."
"No, Ma'am," he said. "You don't understand what's happening
here."
"What?" I asked.
"You see, my wife of sixty-seven years died on Monday. On Tuesday I received friends at the funeral home, and on Wednesday . . He paused. I saw tears welling up in his eyes. "On Wednesday I buried her." He looked away. "On Thurs day most of my out-of-town relatives went back
home, and on Friday - yesterday - my children left.I nodded.
"This morning," he continued, "I was sitting in my den crying out loud. I
miss her so much. For the last sixteen years, as her health got worse, she needed me. But now nobody needs me. This morning I cried, 'Who needs an eighty-six-year-old wore-out man? Nobody!' I began to cry louder. Nobody needs me!' About that time, you knocked, and said, "Sir, I need you."I stood with my mouth open.
He asked, "Are you an angel? The way the light shone around your head
into my dark living room . ."
I assured him I was no angel.
He smiled. "Do you know what I was thinking when I handed you those
magnolias?"
"No."
"I decided I'm needed. My flowers are needed. Why, I might have a
flower ministry! I could give them to everyone! Some caskets at the
funeral home have no flowers. People need flowers at times like that
and I have lots of them. They're all over the backyard! I can give them
to hospitals, churches - all sorts of places. You know what I'm going to
do? I'm going to serve the Lord until the day He calls me home!"
I drove back to the church, filled with wonder. On Patsy's wedding day,
if anyone had asked me to encourage someone who was hurting, would
have said, "Forget it! It's my only daughter's wedding, for goodness'
sake! There is no way I can minister to anyone today."
But God found a way. Through dead flowers. "Life is not the way it's supposed
to be. It's the way it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the
difference."